To, Where it should reach! Marburg, 35039.
Servus from Paderborn,
On 28th March, I visited my friends in Marburg — my previous Certified Hellhole™️.
I never planned to visit, but it was a very spontaneous trip. I had some things left at my friend’s place and also on the floor I used to live on.
Let me explain why I call it a hellhole. And why it’s now previous. I came to Germany with great expectations from the university and the city. But nothing came even close to what I imagined — especially the university.
I had really bad experiences there. Traumatic ones even. Whether it was feuds with neighbours or miscommunication with someone I thought was a friend.
But I won’t go into details. What I will say is — the place itself was great. It taught me so many things.
Especially my friends group, who I will never forget for the rest of my life. And when I say friends, I mean friends — not neighbours.
Sorry if that’s brutally honest, but I learned the definition of friendship through bad experience. Shout out to them.
After moving to Paderborn, I realised I actually love Marburg more than ever. Not despite my bad experiences — just separately from them.
I have friends there who remember me. Great friends. Who never saw me as just a neighbour or an acquaintance — but as a friend. As a brother. I am happy to have them in my life.
So what changed? The 20% of people who made it hard — they made it feel like a hellhole. But the 80% who showed up with warmth and genuine care? They made it easy to come back.
What I learned from this — I cannot forgive the hard times. But I can forget them.
And there is a difference between the two. It can take time to forget a situation. But it only takes seconds to cut the cord.
I did that.
I have forgotten it.
And hell yes, I have a load of shit to do.
Dann, Bis Dann!
Best Regards / M.F.G, Dheirya (Dee)